"In pop culture, girls who crush hopelessly on guys they can’t have are painted as just that – hopeless. Over and over again, we’re taught that girls who openly express sexual or romantic interest in guys who don’t want them are pitiable, stalkerish, desperate, crazy bitches. More often than not, they’re also portrayed as ugly – whether physically, emotionally or both – in order to further establish their undesirability as an objective fact. Both narratively and, as a consequence, in real life, men are given free reign to snub, abuse, mislead and talk down to such women: we’re raised to believe that female desire is unseemly, so that any consequent shaming is therefore deserved. There is no female-equivalent Friend Zone terminology because, in the language of our culture, a man’s romantic choices are considered sacrosanct and inviolable. If a girl has been told no, then she has only herself to blame for anything that happens next – but if a woman says no, then she must not really mean it. Or, if she does, she shouldn’t: the rejected man is a universally sympathetic figure, and everyone from moviegoers to platonic onlookers will scream at her to justgive him a chance, as though her rejection must always be unfounded rather than based on the fact that he had a chance, and blew it. And even then, give him another one! The pathos of Single Nice Guys can only be eased by pity-sex with unwilling women that blossoms into romance!"

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Lamenting the Friendzone, or: The Nice Guy Approach to Perpetuating Sexist Bullshit (via nyquilontherocks)

“If a girl has been told no, then she has only herself to blame for anything that happens next – but if a woman says no, then she must not really mean it. Or, if she does, she shouldn’t: the rejected man is a universally sympathetic figure, and everyone from moviegoers to platonic onlookers will scream at her to justgive him a chance”

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This reminds me of 500 Days of Summer and other countless movies…

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^^^^ That’s exactly what I was thinking while reading this. That’s why I don’t like guys that say that they always finish last because they are the “nice guys”, pf.

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I love the film (bcuz of jgl and zooey’s presence by default) but there are plenty of things wrong with it.

Most people have the reaction (men and women)

“Oh well she’s a bitch, he’s so nice why wouldn’t you stay with him”

It’s sadder when I hear girls say it. It’s kind of annoying. Plus his character wasn’t that nice, he had some douche moments. He wasn’t perfect and neither was she.  Like the bit where he’s talking to his friends in the cafe and calls her a skank because he saw her in the elevator and she said her weekend was “good” in a certain manner… where he thought she had sex with her gym instructor? NICE. I don’t know how anyone comes to that conclusion based on talking to someone for one second. Even if he was perfect, she’s not obligated to be with him just because he’s “nice”, she doesn’t owe anyone a relationship. And if you’re using the nice guy excuse then you’re probably already a douche anyway. You don’t get a free pass in life just because 1.you’re a guy 2. you’re nice. And you certainly won’t get it from a girl.

The screenwriter based 70-80% of it on his own experiences with his ex. Which clearly explains why we only see it through JGL’s character.  It was tacky to lead him on but she never promised more than she gave and eventually did break it off before it went any further. People fail to pick up on the fact that he just didn’t listen, which pretty much happened for most of the relationship in the film. She clearly told him she didn’t want a relationship. I sense we’re pretty much set up to hate Zooey’s character even though we were never even really given enough info about her to make the assumption that she really is a bitch. Essentially her character is nothing more than a one dimensional because plot device really what can you expect from White Straight Hollywood writers?

Even JGL himself said in an interview agreed that his character never really listened to her or saw her as a real person. But idolised her because of his own miserable life and needed an escape route. Often the hardcore fangirls get carried away and go WOW WHAT A BITCH HOW dare she not be in a r/ship with a guy that LOOKS like jgl. If JGL looked like a fat homeless guy how many people would still be going “why wouldn’t she stay with him, he’s so nice!!”

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